I have 100% decided that there is not enough time to do everything I want to do. There is no time to write the beautifully insightful screenplay that changes a generation (I’d settle for changing someone’s outlook on their life during a hard time, but I’m trying to think confidently), there is no time to learn how to knit mittens or plan a backpacking trip through some foreign country, there is no time to level up my D&D character or listen to the 6yo try to remember something he forgot just a second ago but was really important…really…and don’t even think about having time to learn all the things I need to learn in order to know all I need to know.
I might be a little frustrated. (Not much new there.)
Last week I had a few days off to look after the boys before their day care kicked in for the summer. It was lovely. I had big plans. I scheduled appointments and play dates and intended to write the three or four scenes that have been running around in my head…I was going to do the laundry and correspond, catch up on all the bills and maybe knit a hat…instead I just spent a lot of money and got fat because I discovered that dark chocolate covered salted almonds are the best food on the planet.
When I was still seeing a head doctor (the one I liked before I saw the one I didn’t really like but who took my insurance) she told me that I should water what I wanted to grow. Of course, she was speaking metaphorically about putting effort into the things I wanted to be good at and wanted to progress and prosper and all that. Problem is I want everything to grow, and it is really no use using a gardening metaphor for my life because everyone knows I kill plants regardless of my intentions and don’t like dirt on account of the worms.
A friend of mine was recently asked to evacuate her house because of a forest fire dubbed ‘the most destructive in the state’s history.’ ‘You know in an instant what is important to you,’ she told me yesterday. Tears well up in my eyes just at the thought. Well, I do, but I don’t, no I do, don’t I?…isn’t that the struggle I’ve been having for the last year and a half? She said she thought she would be very practical if it came down to it, that the things she would take would be clothes and important papers and things like that. She did gather up all the important papers but the things she needed to save were the irreplaceable things…the projects her kids had made, photographs and family albums. She did throw in a pair of shoes as well…I didn’t ask her what type. Her daughter packed up six bags worth of stuffed animals, ‘didn’t care a thing about clothes.’ I imagine the boys doing something similar…though with books and legos, maybe the PSP. I think the fire is somewhat contained now, at least my friend’s house is out of the immediate danger area now but everything is still packed in her car…just in case.
I can imagine I would be too quick to unpack either.
It did make me think of what was important…what I would bring if I needed to pack up and leave. My laptop is kinda a freebie (other than the kids, obviously, and the cat), as it has all the good stuff on it. I’ve previously discussed my unhealthy need to carry around all those other things I ‘might need,’ so I’ve got a lot of the everyday emergency covered already. The only other things that come to mind: the boy’s hand-made mother’s day cards, the little Liverpool kits they wore when they were babies, my Grandpa’s WWII jacket, my Grandmother’s knitting needles, and the letters my husband and I sent to each other during and after university…I can’t tell you exactly where they are right now.
Maybe I should find them?